You don’t have to be good.
I don’t mean virtuous here. I do think it’s important for all of us to do the best we can to be that kind of good..
What I’m talking about is talent and ability and the idea that we can’t do things because we’re not good at them.
Of course we can do them. And we can keep doing them even if we never get “good” enough to be a superstar.
I’ll start with self defense. Far too many people — particularly, but not exclusively, women — believe they can’t defend themselves, can’t fight back.
And it’s not true. Everyone can learn some self defense skills. They’re not particularly difficult or complicated.
The best part: you don’t have to be good. If you’re ever actually attacked, a couple of quick strikes and running like hell will serve you very well.
I know, because I’ve done it, and believe me, at the time I was very far from good.
The best part is that learning some skills like that gives you the confidence to stand up for yourself in the more common struggles of life, the ones that involve words and insults and gaslighting.
Knowing that you can fight if you have to means you aren’t likely to have to fight.
Knowing that you don’t have to be the super hero (which only happens in the movies anyway) or even a black belt makes that even easier.
But this applies to more than self defense. Continue reading “On Talent”…